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Stephanie Gailing and Seeking Beauty


I’ve always been interested in astrology and how it affects us. So when I got the chance to meet Stephanie Gailing, I was all ears. Our mutual good friend Melissa Lanman (of JNSQ) introduced us and thought we’d hit it off. She was right. It was actually through Skype I got to converse with Stephanie to learn more about what it was that she does. The first thing that caught my attention was how she presented herself, with her words and passion. She had an energy that was positive and deeply intriguing. Soon after our Internet connection (ha!) I learned she was a woman after my own heart, a woman seeking uniqueness and beauty. And someone who could tell me a thing or three about astrology.

Stephanie, a wellness astrologer, opened up by explaining how she finds a thrill and purpose through weaving together astrological insights, flower essence therapy, dreamwork, and compassion-based coaching. More information and her works can be found at her home site (Planetary Apothecary).

Below you can find our interview with Stephanie! Took a look:

What are your must-have beauty products?

Organic coconut oil and filtered water. I love coconut oil; it’s so nourishing and so versatile. I use it all over: on my face, as a body moisturizer, to soften my cuticles, and to nourish my feet. Sometimes, I’ll use it as a scalp treatment and add a bit on the ends of my hair to control fly-aways. As you can see, it’s my #1 go-to. I also consider filtered water an important beauty “product.” After all, the difference in the way I look (and feel) when I’m well-hydrated and when I’m not is world’s apart.

How would you define beauty?

I don’t have a definition of beauty per se but rather a way that I recognize it. When I connect to beauty, I feel a sense of inner peace. It inspires this feeling that’s a mixture of quietude and vitality; I feel at once still and centered while also feeling really alert and engaged. It’s like everything lights up inside of me, which creates a sense of still peace and clarity.

I have this experience regardless of the source of beauty, whether it’s something visual, a gorgeous song, someone’s expression of heartfelt emotion, or something that someone does or says that reflects—and connects me to—a sense of deep-seated humanity.

What are some of your daily rituals?

I love rituals. They give me a sense of order and peace. They feel like a great touchstone to instill some constancy into life that can otherwise be non-constant.

As far as my daily rituals, there are several things that I find myself engaging in each day: focusing on recalling my dreams and recording them, drinking water upon waking, slathering myself with coconut oil (see above), and enjoying a cup of yerba mate or coffee when reading morning emails. And of course, brushing my teeth and taking a hot shower (the latter being one of my favorite experiences of the day).

What led you to Astrology and how did you decide to make a career out of it?

About 20 years ago, I had an astrology session that changed my life. I remember being amazed that by just giving the astrologer my birth information, she knew me in a way like no one else had ever before. For the first time in my life, I felt seen, understood, and validated. It was the most remarkable experience and one that shifted my life trajectory. I felt that I could live into my life in a way that I hadn’t yet been able to and in that moment I felt this call: that I MUST learn the language of astrology.

I needed to know it to better understand myself and the world around me. And I needed to know it so that I could use it as a tool to be of service to others. My career had been (and continues to be) dedicated to helping others achieve a greater sense of well-being, and I saw how astrology could play a very significant role in meeting this aim since it was a tool for awareness, empowerment and self-compassion, which I believed to be at the root of well-being.

While I began studying astrology fiercely at that time, it was in 2009, with the publication of my book Planetary Apothecary, that I began to focus my career on weaving together astrology, self-care tips, and wellness lifestyle strategies.

Who has been most inspirational to you in your work and life?

While there are so many who have been inspirational to me along my path—family, friends, partners, mentors, colleagues, et al.—as I continued to reflect upon your question, who has been most inspirational to me, here is what came to mind: Poets.

I adore poetry. I think part of my affinity towards it is that helps me to identify thoughts and feelings that oftentimes feel so obscure, gossamer, or dispersive that I can’t always find the words for them. When I read poetry, it’s oftentimes like a mirror into my heart and mind, as well as a connection to understanding humanity a bit more.

Rainier Marie Rilke is one of my favorites. As a question-lover, someone who is quite curious and inspired by inquiry, I’m especially fond of this passage:

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”

What advice would you give to other women you wish someone would have told you?

You are unique and that is beautiful. Don’t hide your individuality; instead radiate it. Not only is it your right to be who you are but it’s a gift that you can offer others. It’s important to be yourself, not just for yourself, but because of how it may light up and inspire others’ lives in a very deep and transformative way.


As a wellness astrologer, Stephanie Gailing weaves together astrological insights, flower essence therapy, dreamwork, and compassion-based coaching. Author of Planetary Apothecary: An Astrological Approach to Health and Wellness and Stellar Kids, Stephanie counsels clients, teaches workshops, writes about holistic well-being, and crafts custom-designed flower essence elixirs. Based in Seattle, she frequently travels to New York City, and works with clients all over the world. You can find more about her and her work at her website Planetary Apothecary (