When you hear her name, you’ll be tempted to feel like you instantly know her. But where a lot of us had the luxury of existing as whoever it was we wanted to be, As a Hemingway, Mariel had to truly pave and create her own identity. The youngest of three and of course the granddaughter of Ernest Hemingway, Mariel’s life depicts one that is rich in creativity, endurance and meaningful history. From her early days as an actress, to today as an author, activist and entrepreneur, she continues to lead by example. When you hear her speak, you can hear a well of wisdom from her life experiences and a peace that only exudes beauty and brains we are so drawn to. There’s a light in her words and we are so excited to learn just a little bit more from this wonder of a woman.
January Olds: If you had to describe your childhood in a few words, what would you say?
Mariel Hemingway: My childhood was a combination of the beauty and nurture of nature and the chaos of a home of good intentioned dysfunctional people.
JO: What is the biggest difference when looking at your life today?
MH: I’m not living in the same universe any longer. I’m happy, free to speak up and create on my own. The similarity is that my connection to nature is still my grounding rod. I am in love with my life and my amazing life partner, Bobby Williams and it all just keeps getting better.
JO: From acting to writing to speaking and advocating mental health and beyond, what have you found to be a common emotion within yourself you embody when you’re operating in each of these platforms?
MH: I operate (or at least intend to) from a place of finding and perhaps better said sharing from my inner truth.
JO: “Running from Crazy” was based on your experience growing up around mental illness--what was your intended hope in sharing your story? What has been a surprising discovery?
MH: “Running from crazy” was a documentary I co-produced with Oprah about my family, their suicides and their struggles with addiction. I made it so others (all others) would realize how human beings are all connected and not alone.whether we are celebrities or not we all have the same emotions pains or stories. Even if the outcomes don’t look the same the inherent emotions are the same. We all have struggles and we need to tell our stories in order to free ourselves from the burden of their impact. I write a more detailed book about it called “Out Came the Sun”.
My biggest discovery is finding out how many people share similar stories and often the same pain but how when one sees someone else healing it enables them to heal.
JO: How would you describe a mindful life?
MH: A mindful life is a life lived in the present. A life where you breathe before reaction or explosion where you are grateful and honoring of your journey every day.
JO: Tell us how the perfect day starts out for you and ends.
MH: My perfect day begins by watching the sunrise from our back porch, a quiet meditation then a liter of water and a bullet proof coffee or maybe water first coffee then I watch the sunrise in meditation. I end the day by writing about the day and take an inventory. Then prior to sleeping I imagine the following day filled with ease and joy as I drift off.
JO: Do you have any daily rituals?
MH: Part of my morning routine is that I put a mask on my face every morning. I watch sunrises and sunsets and I meditate daily.
JO: What have you learned most about yourself in the last year?
MH: I learned that I know what I’m good at and I don’t have to do things I’m not good at just to be approved of.
JO: What role has “beauty” played in your understanding to yourself? And to the world?
MH: I feel beauty is an important part of our well being, our health and balance not beauty as vanity but beauty as an element. Beauty begins and ends in nature when we connect to that we find our true beauty.
JO: What makes you feel beautiful?
MH: I feel beautiful when I honor my routines when I connect in the outdoors and when I laugh.
JO: What are a few of your favorite products that you can't live without?
MH: Masks are imperative both moisture and activating masks from natural sources. Serums too are important for skin health. Add a little face yoga everyday and life is good.
JO: Nutrition, meditation, and mindfulness are core passions and values of yours. What ignited them? Does one come easier than the others? Vice versa?
MH: Mindfulness, meditation and nutrition are all equal in importance and help create balance and frankly they all work together to create the greatest well being.
JO: You have two daughters--what would you say has been the best advice they’ve given you?
MH: My daughters are confident and they are straight shooters they help me to not apologize for who I am. They’re far more courageous than I was at their age and they are catalysts for my own courage to walk in my power.
JO: I LOVE that!
JO: What felt once impossible to you and now feels possible?
MH: Creating a legacy of awareness on how to live life. I feel like I’m on the precipice of creating avenues to share more of what I have learned in my years and what I am continuing to learn. Becoming is the word of late that inspires me to self honesty and opening others up to their own becoming.
Beauty and strength are the parts of a woman that create a powerful one. It’s the kind of woman I hope to embody and also the kind of woman who also greatly influences me. When I learned of TyLynn Nguyen, I was drawn to her story instantly and how she has transitioned from diverse yet relevant industries and doing so both seamlessly and successfully. It’s easy to see her effect in such female-focused industries. First her modeling career and now design, fashion and lingerie--to be specific. Having been coined the woman who brought “sexy back” through her refreshed approach of the importance of the slip dress and with attention from Vogue and a plethora of today’s present-day top models, Nguyen has definitely caught our attention and we got to ask her a few questions to learn just a little more.
January Olds: When you were younger, who inspired you most?
TyLynn Nguyen: My mother inspired me most as a child. Her style, make-up, jewelry... all of it used to create these lavish fantasies in my mind about what glamour was. She was in the army so she had this incredible juxtaposition in personality I really love.
JO: Who inspires you now, why?
TN: Time to myself. I cherish this time because I have so much creative energy running in my veins, I need to sit still and absorb it. I have a child like imagination and because of past experiences I have to honor how I channel this energy.
JO: Describe what beauty is to you?
TN: Beauty is God’s promises. Beauty is my children’s laughter. Beauty is my husband kissing me on my neck. Beauty is pure expressions of love.
JO: What makes you feel beautiful?
TN: Sexy lingerie, my attitude towards myself, and a spiritual moment with my husband. I always go to those places when I’m feeling less than what I know I am.
JO: What was one of the most transformative memories for you in the last decade? And in the last year?
TN: My most transformative memory was the year 2015. I was pregnant with my 2nd child and wasn’t in love with my job at the time. I was a model. I sat down at my sewing machine and asked God for guidance. I went to school for Fashion Design and I heard a strong “Remember. This is why you went to school.” I started sewing and created my first bra and panty samples for my line. Greatest time of my life.
This year my most transformative memories have been getting pregnant with my 3rd child and my Paris trip to show my SS18 collection. I’m really excited for all that is to come. And grateful for the ups and downs I’ve experienced thus far.
JO: What is your morning routine?
TN: I wake up, kiss my husband, wash my face, brush my teeth, get back in bed and wait for my kids to run into our room (usually around 6am), get back up, get dressed, get the kids dressed and teeth brushed, make breakfast, pack lunch, take the kids to school, then head into my office. I love the morning. I feel like these are the routines my children will remember the most.
JO: Do you have a product you never leave the house without using?
TN: La Prairie duo. It’s sunscreen and night cream. I use the sunscreen every day. I also use your mask (Glow & Go) 2x a week to refresh my skin.
JO: Three items in your purse that you could not live without.
TN: Cocokind olive oil stick for my lips, my new fragrance oil (coming soon), and my saint laurent glasses
JO: As a designer, where do you look to for inspiration?
TN: The 90s supermodels, literally all of them.
JO: What other designers influence you?
TN: I take so many design influences from my own experiences...it is hard to pin point designers that I am influenced by. In general women I am influenced by are Princess Grace Kelly, Carine Roitfeld, Jackie Kennedy, Caroline Bassett, Madonna, Joan Mitchell, to name a few.
JO: How do you want women to feel in your designs?
TN: I want women to feel empowered, regal, and sexy in my designs.
JO: With a growing family, how do you find balance and productivity?
TN: No idea, I just do it.
JO: What do you want to teach your children when it comes to success.
TN: I want them to define success on their own terms. Connectivity and peace of mind are my definition of success but it could be completely different for them. As long as they can truly say they are happy, that is what I hope to teach them.
JO: What have you considered a hard lesson to learn?
TN: Not everyone is going to like me and that’s actually a good thing. You need opposition to grow.
JO: What brings you joy?
TN: My family. Anything and everything is for them. So grateful for the life God has given me.
Great risk comes with great reward. And while most would simply acknowledge this as a bold statement, Sadie Lincoln embodies it as a posture and wholeheartedly. What started off as a difficult decision in starting a business between her and husband, turned into a transformative investment that quickly shaped the way a culture of healthy exercisers viewed the lifestyle around fitness. What Lincoln thrives in surpasses simply the success behind a business and goes beyond into a philosophy of living life well. Best known as the face and founder of Barre3, we had the chance got to delve in deeper to learn Sadie’s story a bit more, the relationship she has with both sacrifice and success and what beauty and health really mean to her.
January Olds: What did sacrifice look like to you before success? What does it look like now?
Sadie Lincoln: I took the liberty of defining success as starting my company, barre3. Sacrifice before B3: Giving up time with my family and friends in place of long work hours and too much time commuting in the Bay Area. Sacrifice now: Letting go of some of my privacy and becoming more vulnerable as a public facing leader of my company.
JO: Being rooted in such a thriving company circled around health and wellness, what is your philosophy of living well?
SL: My philosophy of living well is living with purpose and a constant love of learning.
JO: What was your first memory of when you realized health was something important to you--or even enjoyable for you?
SL: When I was pregnant with my first child I realized how important living an intuitive life to be healthy. When I was pregnant I gave up all exercise programs and diets and just focused in on what my body and baby needed. I think the real way to be healthy is to honor what I need in each moment and remind myself that I am my own best teacher. My relationship to healthy behavior is way more important than copying what other people do to be healthy. I've learned to move in an intuitive way that feels good in my body, to eat in an intuitive way that is deeply satisfying and nourishing, and to honor exactly what kind of energy I need at any given moment. Sometimes I want to blow off steam and run hard up a mountain. Other times I need to sit silently, take a barre3 class, or even just drink a massive glass of wine with good friends.
JO: “Wholeness” is important in general, but in your field of work do you find a pressure in maintaining a someone “put-together” persona?
SL: The short answer is YES. The long answer is that I think we all feel this pressure. How could we not? We are bombarded with ridiculous ideas around what being successful looks like every single day. The real work is looking inside to observe this shame without judgment and then turn my awareness towards what really matters like being a kind person who cares way more about progress than perfection.
JO: Do you find owning a business as a woman has been opportunistic or more difficult as you’ve built your company over the years?
SL: It hasn't been difficult for me at all. I have always been really empowered and clear that I have no boundaries based on my sex. Even in times when I was in a less than ideal culture for women, I had a determination to break through and make my own career around my power as a woman.
JO: Do you believe in balance? Or is that a myth?
SL: I don't believe balance is a goal or something to achieve. I see it as a guide or north star to living a rich and purpose-driven life. The art of balancing life is the art of managing energy based on what each of us decides is important. The practice is to consciously direct energy and awareness to things and people in our life that matter to us.
JO: What was your educational background? And was the learning curve difficult or natural when it came to being a successful entrepreneur?
SL: In terms of education, I was a late bloomer when it came to school. I wasn't a strong student as a kid. I went to community college and this is when I discovered I loved being a student. I ended up transferring to UCLA. I went on to get my Masters in Education at the College of William & Mary. My whole company is centered around our love of learning. We believe that a good teacher is not someone who professes to have the answers. A good teacher is someone who inspires the student to realize that they are their own best teacher. As an entrepreneur, I am a student first, and the teacher second.
JO: What is one thing people assume about you that you would like to communicate, is not true at all?
SL: That I exercise every day and only eat healthily. Definitely not my truth.
JO: What do you consider the most important lesson in your life in the last year?
SL: The power of taking a break from social media was a big lesson for me. It gave me time to reflect on my relationship to social media and how I was allowing it to distract me from what I care most about including being present with my family. It also gave me the time to really think about why social media is important and to not undervalue the power it holds for each of us to express ourselves and have a voice.
JO: You’ve created a space for people that have transformed both the physical and even emotional/mental state. How does it make you feel? Like three words.
SL: Proud. Motivated. Protective.
JO: What makes you feel comfortable in your own skin?
SL: Sitting quietly, eyes closed, breathing mindfully with my awareness turned inward. Works like a charm!
JO: Describe what beauty means to you.
SL: The first thing that popped into my mind is diversity. Without diversity, nothing would be beautiful in my eyes.
JO: Barre 3 has a tagline “where ballet meets yoga and pilates”, what would your tagline be?
SL: My tagline would be "I-need-a-new-tagline-for-barre3-because-it-doesn't-fully-express-who-we-are."
JO: What are your three favorite items in your purse right now, why?
SL: Los Poblanos Lavender Lip Salve. -- A little piece of Tao's where I was born. Great also for my hair and nails.
My lucky owl. -- I'm superstitious and always travel with an owl.
Vapour lip and cheek stick -- An instant glow and shimmer never hurt.
I also love your restorative tonic mist. Especially in the winter when the dry weather kicks in.
JO: What is the number one character trait you think is necessary for building your own business, why?
SL: Resilience. Because you need it every single day.
JO: What do you think are the factors that keep people from living their best, most possible healthy lives?
SL: For most people, it's not having the very basics like healthy food, shelter, clean water, and safety.
JO: What are you most proud of? Why?
SL: My children. I never thought I would be a CEO but always knew I would be a mom. I am so happy to have them in my life.
JO: You have two children, what is something you want to teach them you were taught growing up?
SL: That being kind and confident is the most important over all other achievements.
JO: What is the best part about owning your own business that has surprised you most?
SL: No red tape rocks. Being my own boss allows me to get shit done in a timely manner.
JO: What has changed the most about the philosophy of exercise in the 90s vs. today?
SL: I could write a book on this subject so I will keep it to fashion. Two words: Exercise Thong.